You're right we as a society set laws that set down what we believe to be unacceptable behavior, and we set out consequences there to. You're right - we as parents set out what we believe to be unacceptable behavior and consequences there to. However, there is still no CONTROL on how people behave in a free democratic society - you will be fined, charged and perhaps even locked up for a period of time - after that - you CAN choose to do it again. No one, as an adult CONTROLS your behavior.
Controlling another person is abuse.
I find his behavior and his consequences to be not about teaching consequences, but about controlling a person. He is abusive.
I say this as a survivor of a lifetime of physical and psychological abuse.
I know that non of this is going to change your deeply held beliefs or opinion, just as there really isn't anything that would change mine.
Which is why it breaks my heart, because it changes OUR relationship, and that hurts me more than you will ever know.
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You're right we as a society set laws that set down what we believe to be unacceptable behavior, and we set out consequences there to. You're right - we as parents set out what we believe to be unacceptable behavior and consequences there to. However, there is still no CONTROL on how people behave in a free democratic society - you will be fined, charged and perhaps even locked up for a period of time - after that - you CAN choose to do it again. No one, as an adult CONTROLS your behavior.
Controlling another person is abuse.
I find his behavior and his consequences to be not about teaching consequences, but about controlling a person. He is abusive.
I say this as a survivor of a lifetime of physical and psychological abuse.
I know that non of this is going to change your deeply held beliefs or opinion, just as there really isn't anything that would change mine.
Which is why it breaks my heart, because it changes OUR relationship, and that hurts me more than you will ever know.