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theoldwolf) wrote2012-02-10 12:24 pm
theoldwolf) wrote2012-02-10 12:24 pm
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Meme: Awesome Dad
You may or may not have caught this latest viral video, showing a dad getting all up in his daughter's face after she talked smack about her parents on Facebook, and thought they wouldn't know about it:
It didn't work.
In honor of the Most Awesome Tommy Jordan, I've created the "Awesome Dad" meme.
Here's the template: Go wild.
You the man, Tommy.
It didn't work.
In honor of the Most Awesome Tommy Jordan, I've created the "Awesome Dad" meme.
Here's the template: Go wild.
You the man, Tommy.
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and the fun people are having with this ... is making me ill
I'm sorry my friend - but I find this post pretty disgusting.
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First: Teenagers are not supposed to be rebellious. In my book, that is a false assumption. Teens are only as rebellious as parents allow them to be. You see, I did the touchy-feely parent thing, believing that if I set a good example and taught my kids correct principles, they would walk the path that they were shown. Sadly, while my kids are good people at heart, they've certainly not adhered to the principles that they were taught, and one of them has done things that made my blood run cold. It's a miracle that she's still alive. No, I wish I had been more like this dad. In the end, it may not have made any difference to my kids, but it would have made a world of difference to me - I would not be constantly second-guessing myself as to whether I should have been strict instead of permissive.
Second: This is not about control, it's about consequences. This punishment is exquisitely adapted to the crime. The child - a spoiled, ungrateful, entitled, foul-mouthed brat - decided that she would take her insulting and degrading monologue public, thinking that mommy and daddy would never see it. It is only appropriate that the consequences of her action should be public as well. A lot of fathers would have taken this kid out to the woodshed and whaled her black and blue... I find this father's response measured, calculated, and immensely appropriate - and much more effective that a beating, which would have been disgusting, and only engendered more resentment.
Control? Does not our society control us? I can drive 140 km/H on the freeway in Quebec, (at 2:30 AM, when the road is deserted,) hurt no one, cause no damage, and still be pulled over by two revenue-hungry flics, escorted to an ATM, and be forced to pay $240.00 on the spot, or go to jail. Yet I was guilty of nothing under common law. Oh, our societies are all about control. And as we have seen, teenagers need to be controlled want to be controlled, and are begging to be controlled. They are crying out for parents to keep them in strait paths until their brains have matured enough to keep them from being a danger to themselves and others. If parents do not, this (http://cache.gawkerassets.com/assets/images/4/2011/12/5dba69456d6bfa8e613bd24430ac8b1a.png) is the result. Now that is disgusting.
Do you remember the "Ching-Chong-Ling-Long" girl? In today's world, if you want to be supremely ignorant in front of the world, you had better expect to be pilloried by the world. What I find interesting about this whole event is the number of teenagers who are stepping up and saying, "Right on. Dad got it right." It buttresses my thesis that kids want to be kept in check and permitted only to do things that will be beneficial to them, until they have the world experience to make their own choices.
I repeat: the child now has a choice. She can think about what she did, be grateful that she has a dad who cares enough to teach her what's right and what's wrong, and learn from the result, which would be a step toward responsible adulthood; or she can whine and complain about how unfair and ugly and vicious her mean old daddy was with his big .45, which will basically lead her to a life of entitled wretchedness.
This is how I feel, not a condemnation of the views of anyone else. Fortunately in this world, there is room for civilized debate.
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You're right we as a society set laws that set down what we believe to be unacceptable behavior, and we set out consequences there to. You're right - we as parents set out what we believe to be unacceptable behavior and consequences there to. However, there is still no CONTROL on how people behave in a free democratic society - you will be fined, charged and perhaps even locked up for a period of time - after that - you CAN choose to do it again. No one, as an adult CONTROLS your behavior.
Controlling another person is abuse.
I find his behavior and his consequences to be not about teaching consequences, but about controlling a person. He is abusive.
I say this as a survivor of a lifetime of physical and psychological abuse.
I know that non of this is going to change your deeply held beliefs or opinion, just as there really isn't anything that would change mine.
Which is why it breaks my heart, because it changes OUR relationship, and that hurts me more than you will ever know.
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This is true.
Controlling another person is abuse.
Controlling another adult is abuse. Taken to the extreme, one could argue that sending a child to its room, with or without supper, or witholding an allowance, or grounding for a period of time is also abuse, because it's definitely control.
Which is why it breaks my heart, because it changes OUR relationship, and that hurts me more than you will ever know.
It need not. I have friends who are gay, wiccan, transgendered, liberal, straight, 7th-Day Adventists, Republicans, rednecks, hippies, freegans, Muslims, Jews, and probably some disguised Romulans. To name a few. Co-belligerence, the concept of people with widely-opposing viewpoints, working together to improve the human condition, is one of the few saving principles I see when trying to build a world that works for everyone. People do not need to look at the world the same way, nor see one viewpoint as being somehow defective, less than, or threatening.
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HOWEVER, there do come times, when a person's viewpoint is so far outside of our own, as to exclude friendship. As I said to my ex husband during our divorce proceedings - it's not that I hate you, or that I can't let go of the pain of certain actions, it's just that that behavior changed forever my view of you and my feelings for you.
For me ... abuse is one of those issues. For me this is abuse, that you go beyond condoning it, to celebrating it, making light and making fun of it.... changes forever my viewpoint of our relationship. This one is too far outside my viewpoint of acceptable to condone it by calling it friendship. I'm sorry if that seems extreme or petty or mean spirited of me - to use an oft ill used phrase "this hurts me more than it'll hurt you".
I respect that your viewpoint is different than mine, and you are fully entitled and empowered to hold it, but I cannot subject myself to it - even in quiet acquiescence.
Go well.
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Based my response to a single incident, about which we have differing opinions, you have chosen to believe that I condone abuse. That's quite a stretch, and couldn't be farther from the truth. You are choosing to alter the status of a relationship that for years has been supportive and beneficial. In exchange, you get to keep being right. I hope that the price you are paying is worth the benefit.
I have always wished you joy and success, and continue to do so.