Writer's Block: Go it alone

[theoldwolf]

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In general, I would say yes, qualifying that by adding , "in some sections of society more than others, it depends on whom you ask."

In my community of faith, being single after 24 is considered being a menace to society. Those who are divorced wear a scarlet "D" branded on their foreheads - or at least you'd think they do. A more efficient way of getting sent to Coventry I have not seen.

Valentine's day can bite the wax tadpole if you're single and not in a relationship. Or it can be a day to find joy in the happiness of your friends. Overall, I would say that it's not good for man (or woman) to be alone, but we're not obliged to go victim to whatever circumstances we find ourselves in - and as friends of mine have remarked, some prefer a state of blessed unattachment.

Much of the pressure comes from the marketing departments of candy concerns, greeting card manufacturers, and diamond cartels - not to mention mothers - which pressure is not insignificant. However, ultimately it's not society's place to say anything at all about a person's relationship choices.

Comments

[deckardcanine.livejournal.com]

I'm sure that much of the pressure is unintentional. Singles hang out more with other singles and spouses hang out more with other spouses because of how they relate.

As you may know, I've had practically no drive to look for love. Nevertheless, I rarely care about the oblique social pressure, and Valentine's Day (like any candy-filled holiday) is fine by me. The sight of a good romance warms my heart without making me envious.

Lately, tho, I've wondered whether I really would be happier with a wife and possibly kids... if only to enrich my dull life.

[bayliss.livejournal.com]

I am perfectly Happy with out the martial attachment. I am perfectly happy being child-free (allows me time to spoil friends of mine's children and give them back.) I look at it this way.. If I can enrich teenagers lives who have a lack of parental care. (IE some teenagers I encounter here or IRL) I am doing my part in raising a child. Some of the adults I know need help in being raised.

The Marital attachment... I am far too picky in my choice of men, from what one man has told me. Thus rather than settle for less than what I want I have chosen instead to face life alone. I have been burned and I don't like that.

I do not like men who are superfical and refuse to be upfront with me in what they expect.

[r-caton.livejournal.com]

I can see myself dying alone, unmourned, being found more shrivelled than shriven... the soft tissues go first, no?
My life tends that way, now....

[torakiyoshi.livejournal.com]

"Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry." - I Cor 7.1

-=TK