Writer's Block: Go it alone
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In general, I would say yes, qualifying that by adding , "in some sections of society more than others, it depends on whom you ask."
In my community of faith, being single after 24 is considered being a menace to society. Those who are divorced wear a scarlet "D" branded on their foreheads - or at least you'd think they do. A more efficient way of getting sent to Coventry I have not seen.
Valentine's day can bite the wax tadpole if you're single and not in a relationship. Or it can be a day to find joy in the happiness of your friends. Overall, I would say that it's not good for man (or woman) to be alone, but we're not obliged to go victim to whatever circumstances we find ourselves in - and as friends of mine have remarked, some prefer a state of blessed unattachment.
Much of the pressure comes from the marketing departments of candy concerns, greeting card manufacturers, and diamond cartels - not to mention mothers - which pressure is not insignificant. However, ultimately it's not society's place to say anything at all about a person's relationship choices.
In general, I would say yes, qualifying that by adding , "in some sections of society more than others, it depends on whom you ask."
In my community of faith, being single after 24 is considered being a menace to society. Those who are divorced wear a scarlet "D" branded on their foreheads - or at least you'd think they do. A more efficient way of getting sent to Coventry I have not seen.
Valentine's day can bite the wax tadpole if you're single and not in a relationship. Or it can be a day to find joy in the happiness of your friends. Overall, I would say that it's not good for man (or woman) to be alone, but we're not obliged to go victim to whatever circumstances we find ourselves in - and as friends of mine have remarked, some prefer a state of blessed unattachment.
Much of the pressure comes from the marketing departments of candy concerns, greeting card manufacturers, and diamond cartels - not to mention mothers - which pressure is not insignificant. However, ultimately it's not society's place to say anything at all about a person's relationship choices.
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Date: 2009-12-10 05:29 pm (UTC)As you may know, I've had practically no drive to look for love. Nevertheless, I rarely care about the oblique social pressure, and Valentine's Day (like any candy-filled holiday) is fine by me. The sight of a good romance warms my heart without making me envious.
Lately, tho, I've wondered whether I really would be happier with a wife and possibly kids... if only to enrich my dull life.
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Date: 2009-12-10 06:14 pm (UTC)The Marital attachment... I am far too picky in my choice of men, from what one man has told me. Thus rather than settle for less than what I want I have chosen instead to face life alone. I have been burned and I don't like that.
I do not like men who are superfical and refuse to be upfront with me in what they expect.
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Date: 2009-12-10 06:48 pm (UTC)But the only lady that I'd be interested in with a view to a maritial attachment is to all appearances a perfectly adjusted solo performer.... she enjoys our friendship... and I wouldn't want to lose her by applying pressure. And I can't honestly see where I could enhance her life in any other way than I do....
I am blind to body language. TOTALLY blind. Any potential partner needs not to be merely upfront but BLATANTLY and UNEQUIVOCALLY OBVIOUS. Else I simply won't know...
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Date: 2009-12-10 09:28 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2009-12-10 10:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-12-10 06:50 pm (UTC)My life tends that way, now....
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Date: 2009-12-10 09:37 pm (UTC)Unmourned? Pish tush pah, George Bailey. You really need to re-watch "It's a Wonderful Life". 'Tis the season, anyway... you should be able to catch one of 111 screenings.
And anyway, what boots it? The transition takes but a twinkling, and then there is One who will welcome you with a "Well done, thou good and faithful Jackass," and any perceived solitude will be the substance of a dream.
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Date: 2009-12-11 01:28 am (UTC)-=TK
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Date: 2009-12-11 02:44 am (UTC)